恭喜发财

“恭喜发财” 这四个字是在过年的时候说的祝福语，过年的时候大家讨个喜庆，相互恭喜。这句祝福语，对生意人特别有用。谁不希望来年兴旺发达呢？越发越好嘛，被祝福是件很高兴开心的事。

那，你知道吗？最喜欢说 “恭喜发财”的是谁呢？是小孩子们和企业的员工们。为什么？因为有红包啊，别忘了，在 “恭喜发财”后面还跟着一句“红包拿来”。红包是上给予下、强给予弱、长给予幼的。同辈或地位相等的人之间可以不打红包，你恭喜我我恭喜你，大家扯平。小孩向大人(特别是做生意的大人)，或员工向老板说“恭喜发财”，那是讨要红包最有效、最理直气壮的方式。 说者有红包，听者得祝福，大家皆大欢喜。

但， “恭喜发财” 这四个字并不是过年的专利，不是过年的时候才听得到，也不是每个说的人和听的人都能其乐融融的。我偶尔在平时也能听到这样的话。前些年，流行职业乞丐，我常在车站等车、或在街上行走的时候，看到或遇到过被 “恭喜发财” 。 “恭喜发财” 成了职业乞丐的流行职业语言，就像你去饭馆时前台迎宾小姐会说“欢迎光临”一样富有职业水准。

当然，现在还有职业乞丐，只是我很少出门，遇见的少了罢了。或者是“行业”遭遇瓶颈，产出不高而使部分“从业者”“优胜劣汰”？不得而知。这些流行职业乞丐有手有脚身体健健康康还正当中年，穿着跟普通人一样干净，甚至他们银行里的存款可能比普通人还多，可人家就能丢下自尊伸出手去“恭喜”别人“发财” ，不给就一直缠着，着实令人厌恶，可让人可怜不起来。

如果你只是一般的路人，对付这些人比较容易，被缠了最多转身走开，不理他，一般职业乞丐也很有“职业道理”，不会再缠你，而转移目标去缠其他人。因为他知道你不会给他，他再缠也缠不出你的钱，还不如把时间和成本投向另一个人。

但如果你看起来像有钱人，或是你正在停车等绿灯的车主/司机，或你正在店铺里忙着做生意，那你可没那么走运了。因为职业乞丐们知道，把功夫和成本放在你身上回报率大得多得多。 如果你是第一种，是看起来像有钱人的人，你出手大方的机率比普通人大得多得多，在众目睽睽之下也有压力，很没面子，被缠恶心了给点钱打发他们，落得清静，也有做“爷”的虚荣感。 如果你是第二种，是正在等红绿灯的车主/司机，他们不知死活地穿过来来往往的车流，敲你的车窗，甚至可能还可怜兮兮地用拿来假装残疾的拐杖在你面前扬一扬，绿灯快来了，你又急着走，又怕车会刮到他出更大的事，或其他车刮到他而目睹悲剧，所以尽管你知道一切都是假的，但最后也不得不花点钱消点灾。最最无奈的是第三种，是正在埋头做生意的你了。正当你卖力地、甚至有些过分讨好地向顾客推销你的商品的时候，当你正想方设法地消除你跟顾客的之间的距离感，希望从情感上感动顾客从而感动他去购买你的商品以达到最后生意成交的时候，职业乞丐的出现，可能会让你前功尽弃。不，可能更糟，他们不但有可能会把你快要达成商品成交的顾客赶跑，甚至更可能会把正在店里挑选商品的、甚至正打算走进你店里的顾客都赶跑。所以，在对付商店老板的时候，职业乞丐是最卖力、最难缠。你不给钱，他赖在那里。地方是你的，你走不了；你希望维持好不容易在顾客那里建立起来的和谐美好的气氛，你不能翻起脸来骂他；你既要顾及顾客的感受，又要顾及你自己的形象，但你又不能赶他走，或赶不走他。好嘛，接下来只能花点钱了事。

很无奈是吧？很不爽是吧？打住，先别急着发表感慨。比以上更无奈更不爽的情况还有呢，甚至可以说用惨来形容。我给你形容一下那个场面：一队人穿着戏服甚至还化了妆，又是敲锣又是打鼓的，再加个舞龙舞狮什么的，哇，全副武装上阵，站在你店前，好不卖力，好不热闹! 这个场景如果放在春节过年、把地方移到我们家县城，那将是一场场歌唱繁荣昌盛、祝福美好未来的传统舞龙舞狮表演，舞师们在鞭炮的爆炸中举着龙头狮头，跳起来去把高高挂在店门框上的红包摘下来(别以为容易，我们家那边的房子都是自己盖的，楼层很高的)，这是靠的不仅仅是体力、技术、还要有随时有被电光闪烁、从没间断过的鞭炮炸伤的危险。尽管每年都有舞师受伤，但舞龙舞狮表演的传统却从来没在我们县城中断过，因为舞师们身上带着给人们送去祝福的使命，所以舞师们是受人尊敬的，也是被人崇拜的。 现在，镜头拉回到前面那场景，一队人马在你店门前给你带来“祝福”，你的生意做不成了，你的顾客都走光了，你被别人围观了，你被一伙在堵在自己的店里了，赶也赶不走，骂也骂不过，打更打不过了。怎么样？崩溃了吧，给钱吧，给钱的时候别忘了人家也知道人均的计算方法。知道吗？等你给了钱之后，对方还可以再多赠你一句“恭喜发财”，让你哭笑不得，自己生窝囊气去吧，因为你被一群可能比你还富有的假乞丐优雅地打劫了。

自从那个危机之后到现在也快有一年了吧，现在很多国家都快撑不住扛不了，这不，最近(特别是牛年开春后)西方的媒体上慢慢多了夸中国的文章，别会错意，就是夸咱那两万亿美元外汇，都眼钩钩地流着口水看着呢。都在给中国戴高帽子，希望中国拿钱出来救全世界，其效果不亚于平日里的 “恭喜发财”。幸好我们只能哭穷，紧紧收住银袋子，当然无奈中也破费了一些，但没损元气。

现在，G20开也开了，有的人看到的是某个国家元首的排场风光，有的人看到某些夫人身上的服装花样，有的人看到了餐会的菜谱，有的人看到了印在纸上的“共同声明”。而我，看到的却是一群国家在摆开阵子敲锣打鼓来恭喜中国发财! 变着花样、轮番上阵、涂了脂抹了粉身光颈靓(注，粤语，意思是外表光鲜的样子)地对这个人均外汇储备比他们还低的、储备随时变成废纸的国家进行集体大忽悠!!! 如果他们看到我写的文字的话，我只想跟他们说：****! Shame on you all !!!

中国，扛住! 只有让假乞丐知道你比他更穷，他才不能理直气壮地来打土豪分田地! 只有让假乞丐知道你比铁公鸡更抠，比郭德钢宋祖德还不在乎面子，他才失去给你戴高帽进行集体大忽悠的兴趣。至于摆阵子的团伙，走不了咱躲，大不了我关门不做生意，不做一会甚至是几天生意，也饿不死咱，总比你给他一次他还会来第二次的强。他们总不能在你店前吃喝住下不走了吧，不值，他们也会算成本的。至于他们会不会怀恨在心，回头把你店子烧了，我就不敢担保了。这要依你们之间的关系是不是搞得太僵、你的店是不是很值钱、你店里及周围的保安系统强不强而定。如果是的话，我的建议是，多在不同的地方装上监控镜头，如果他们真敢来阴的，咱也有证据光明正大地去抄了他们的窠。并暗中留意一下这伙人的动向，再找多几个壮男守店一段时间，等这伙人自觉无趣了、散了的时候，你也就安全了。

My kissing red pigs' love story

1.We met, and was being togerther...

2. We determined to be sweet couple...

3. As you know, no life is perfect. We argued sometimes...

4. Whereas, we still together. Together forever...

Can I Have This Dance

Can I Have This Dance

Can I Have This Dance

Take my hand, take a breath
Pull me close and take one step
Keep your eyes locked on mine,
And let the music be your guide.

Won't you promise me
(now won't you promise me, that you'll never forget)
We'll keep dancing (to keep dancing)
wherever we go next

It's like catching lightning the chances of finding someone like you
It's one in a million, the chances of feeling the way we do

And with every step together, we just keep on getting better
So can I have this dance (can I have this dance)

Can I have this dance


Take my hand, I'll take the lead
And every turn will be safe with me
Don't be afraid, afraid to fall
You know I'll catch you threw it all
And you can't keep us apart
(even a thousand miles, can't keep us apart)
'Cause my heart is (cause my heart is)
wherever you are

It's like catching lightning the chances of finding someone like you
It's one in a million, the chances of feeling the way we do
And with every step together, we just keep on getting better

So can I have this dance (can I have this dance)
Can I have this dance

Oh no mountains too high enough, oceans too wide
'Cause together or not, our dance won't stop

Let it rain, let it pour
What we have is worth fighting for
You know I believe, that we were meant to be

It's like catching lightning the chances of finding someone like you (like you)

It's one in a million, the chances of feeling the way we do (way we do)
And with every step together, we just keep on getting better

So can I have this dance (can I have this dance)
Can I have this dance
Can I have this dance
Can I have this dance

"You have been missed"

I got a call from my younger brother this morning. It made me suddenly tense at that moment I picked up the phone. My brother seldom calls me if nothing happened. Usually we talk through MSN. There must be something happened if he must call me on the phone.

But he told me everything was OK. His calling just made sure I was all right, for he hadn’t seen me online for days. He said he just got a little worry about me. I felt great relief after he said so, and filled with joyful.

I was joyful because I was missed by someone (especially by families). It’s a great happiness to know about there’s someone cared about me. Everybody can understand that feeling of miss and been miss, I think.

I know the American always say ”I love you” or “I miss you” or something like that to their families. But most of Chinese don’t say such things to their families, even they do so. We just don’t speak out words like that, especially to parents. Most of Chinese parents have a power of authority to their children, not friends like. So the children have more respect than love to their parents. This condition happens in the traditional Chinese families. But in modern families, people are more opening at the relation of families. Maybe they would say love and miss and emotional things, I don’t know.

I was born at a traditional family in a traditional district. People in my hometown seldom say emotional words to their families, my families do so as well. I’ve never been told ”you’ve been missed” from my families, but I just know about it when ……when……Well,I just know about it.


----Corrected by Sajid (Thank you very much, Sajid.) 2009-03-16----


I got a call from my younger brother this morning. It made me suddenly tense at that moment I picked up the phone. My brother seldom never calls me if nothing happened. Usually we talk through MSN. Something must have happened because he is calling me on the phone.

But he told me everything was OK. He was calling just to make sure I was all right,because he hadn’t seen me online for a couple days.

He said he just got a little worried about me. I felt relieved after he said so, and filled with joyful.

I was joyful because I was missed by someone (especially by my family). It’s a great happiness to know there’s someone caring about me. Everybody can understand that feeling of missing and been missed, I think.

I know the American always say ”I love you” or “I miss you” or something like that to their families. But most of Chinese don’t say such things to their families, even they do so. We just don’t speak out words like that, especially to parents. Most of Chinese parents have a power of authority to their children, not friends like. So the children have more respect than love to their parents.

This condition happens in the traditional Chinese families. But in modern families, people are more openned to the relation of families. Maybe they would say love and miss and emotional things, I don’t know.

I was born at a traditional family in a traditional district. People in my hometown seldom say emotional words to their families, my families do so as well. I’ve never been told ”you’ve been missed” from my family, but I just know about it when ……when……Well,I just know it.

器与物

器是用来容纳、传输的载体，物是被载体容纳、传输的东西。有点绕，不过，举几个例子就明白好多。比如，碗是器，饭菜是物；衣服是器，人是物；语言文字是器，思想是物；政体是器，国家是物。物是可循环再生的，而器只有一个。有的人因为看不清器与物的本质关系，分不清什么是本，什么是末，最后只能收获一个失败的人生。

先用碗和饭的关系来说吧，人吃的是饭，而不是碗。有的人把碗当成了本，花了9分的精力去打造一个精美绝伦的碗，最后剩下那1分，只能吃到粗饭，最后穷困潦倒饿死在碗边。另外一种人则是把1分精力去打造一只破碗，而用9分精力花在制造丰富食物上，最后丰衣中食老死于逸。你说是哪种人更成功些呢？当然，现代社会提倡多元化，第一种人不是没有，但现实社会中生活着的多数的、被社会所接受的还是第二种人吧。

同样，衣与人的例子也是类似的原理。有的人把大把精力放在服饰上，虽然第一眼挺帅，但交往久了你会发现这个人综合素质太差，跟这种人交住很倒胃口。而有的人虽然穿着素朴，却有良好内在素养，具君子之风雅绅士之风度，交往起来让人很开心。有的女人就因为本末倒置，认错人嫁错郎，嫁个衣囊帅哥受苦一生。聪明的女人选择与同样有内在智慧的男人一起，贫也好富也罢，都快快乐乐的生活一辈子。反过来也一样，如果一个男人只看到一个女人的漂亮外表而忽略内在美，想要长久的幸福也很难。

“语言文字是器，思想是物”这个例子有点复杂。凡是说到跟文化有点关系的东西都简单不了。文人好辩，凡是读过那么一点书的人呢，都有点自己的主张。思想观点上讨论不过，就会玩起文字游戏。但不要误会哦，读过书甚至是读了很多很多书的人不一定有智慧哦，这是不同的东西。有的人没读过什么书同样有着很高的智慧的，这个就不用我说了吧。不好意思扯远了。一个人，不管他的文字写得再好，会说的语言有多少种，只要他表达的是肮脏阴暗扭曲邪恶的思想，说的是不正不义不仁不忠的话，那他就是一陀臭巴巴，用英文说就是 ”a piece of shit”. 花大把时间去研究多种语言有什么用，还不如花点时间丰富自己的思想。语言是死的，人的思想是活的。没有思想巧嘴滑舌的人说出来的话是一种鼓噪，有思想的人甚至难得开口，一出口即是智慧。

政体是器，国家是物。中国有几千年的历史，也经过了无数个政体，这无数个政体也倒了无数次，但国家与民族依然生机勃勃地生存并繁衍下来了。政体是政体，国家是国家，一个末一个本。不能说反对政体就可以把整个国家和民族都反了。关于这方面，我不想多说了，留点空间给大家慢慢意会吧。

总之，器与物、本与末的道理，想明白了，看清楚了，很多事情的看法也就不同了。